Assembling Self

Saturday, December 4, 2010

Adoptees - No Voice, No Choice

No Voice, No Choice

When we were born we had no voice.
Now that we're grown we have no choice.
Our lives were taken, rearranged.
Left us with questions, loss, and pain.
The secrets that are still well kept.
These lies they want us to accept.
And truths we aren't allowed to know.
Tear at our very heart and soul.

I wrote this today after reading and hearing from several adoptees dealing with issues in relation to their adoption situations.  Knowing that I am not alone gives me a great amount of validation that this is not something, as I believed for so long, was a blown out of proportion or created by myself.  But, it also is disheartening and depressing to know that so many other adoptees are suffering too.

Wade S. Weatherford, Jr., Resident Judge Circuit Court of South Carolina

"If we believe in 'one nation, indivisible with liberty and justice for all', then we should fight to the end for that group of citizens who are adopted and who are deprived of fundamental decency and justice."

Much of the life long trauma adoption can cause can be corrected with giving adoptees the truth about their biological lives.  If adoptees are expected to be like everyone else, we should be treated as such.  The lies, half truths, and falsifications are not a sound and healthy basis for anyone's life.  I can't fathom with holding truth and answers, or lying to my children over significant and important facts, such as knowing who you are and where you come from.

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