tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post4609763288696460304..comments2023-04-30T04:41:19.630-07:00Comments on Assembling Self: Angry Adoptees!Assembling Selfhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00106371702041450240noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post-54616169250463942732013-12-07T08:54:36.185-08:002013-12-07T08:54:36.185-08:00I agree that people have a right to their anger. T...I agree that people have a right to their anger. They don't have a right to spew animosity at others, though - just as you said. It is a huge myth that all infertile people are looking to adopt a child. Infertiles are largely targeted as the "problem". Did you know many infertile people have no desire to adopt? Stop pointing the finger of judgment at them. Many of those who demand adoptions already have biological children.Janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03469446147426159902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post-83388982372902428162013-11-04T13:04:20.361-08:002013-11-04T13:04:20.361-08:00Preach it, Sister! I'm still trying to feel s...Preach it, Sister! I'm still trying to feel safe enough to reach my anger. Blogging helps though.Lionesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08248105912379321811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post-26314432130386454302011-01-17T16:21:51.922-08:002011-01-17T16:21:51.922-08:00Thank you so much! I think we all get tired or be...Thank you so much! I think we all get tired or being expected to feel grateful for being LIED to and deceived by those that claim to "love us". I will never ever understand adoptive parents who teach their children to tell the truth and then lie to them. And, we are not expected to be angry about it when we get old to understand that we were manipulated! I appreciated the comments guys. :)Assembling Selfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00106371702041450240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post-19648514491556802082011-01-17T12:58:33.678-08:002011-01-17T12:58:33.678-08:00Love it, Karen!Love it, Karen!bobbyjeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18187372757602520230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post-27996076318831050492011-01-17T07:38:05.572-08:002011-01-17T07:38:05.572-08:00I believe this is one of your best posts my friend...I believe this is one of your best posts my friend. Lately, when I will hear someone say, "I love my adoptive parents so much," it makes me very sad. In my particular circumstances, it wasn't ever about loving one more than the other or being ungrateful. I needed to be treated with more respect and my parents not keep the truth from me. For me personally, I never wanted to feel like I had to choose. Angry, perhaps more disappointed and hurt.Anne Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09535382092019597364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post-81567849199080052552011-01-16T19:11:51.849-08:002011-01-16T19:11:51.849-08:00Thank you for your input Kat and Jay. Our stories...Thank you for your input Kat and Jay. Our stories and our voices are necessary to educate others about what needs to change in adoption and for us to be able to heal from our experiences.Assembling Selfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00106371702041450240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post-40639022572718490932011-01-16T18:13:31.775-08:002011-01-16T18:13:31.775-08:00people just don't want to hear us. if they lis...people just don't want to hear us. if they listen to and validate our anger they have to see that what society tells them about adoption is a lie, and they are too scared to do that.Jakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01363255866955078833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post-43234194092494998352011-01-16T18:00:04.103-08:002011-01-16T18:00:04.103-08:00Adoption is not unlike an arranged marraige, well ...Adoption is not unlike an arranged marraige, well my adoption was anyhow.....didnt want to have a relationship with their retard son when I came of age...yes we arent bro & sis in bio terms, so no use for me, get lost orphanKAThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17666574181657699356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post-53200856852092936342011-01-16T13:53:36.382-08:002011-01-16T13:53:36.382-08:00Faith I love that quote. I may have to steal it. ...Faith I love that quote. I may have to steal it. :) The support group is on Facebook. I have been in many online and offline ones that are wonderful, as this one is. You can reach me at karenbelangertx@gmail.com and I can send you the link to it. Nice to meet you as well.Assembling Selfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00106371702041450240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post-88100414359750422112011-01-16T13:34:21.373-08:002011-01-16T13:34:21.373-08:00Emotions are never ever to be judged with a right ...Emotions are never ever to be judged with a right or wrong status. What we do with the behaviour resulting from an emotional experience in a moral sense is a different story. Sadly many in society are emotionally unconnected to themselves and have a hard time coping with other folks emotions. It was easier for me to view these folks as unhealed and not as an attack on me. Only hurt people "pause" hurt people, was a quote that that helped me process this. Anger informs us we have sensed an injustice but it must be guided by reason to make a good choice. Nice to meet you. I am an adoptee and new to the blogs and facebook. Where is this offline group support that you speak of.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10981532583239560371noreply@blogger.com