tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post393841537622598775..comments2023-04-30T04:41:19.630-07:00Comments on Assembling Self: It's "just" a nameAssembling Selfhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00106371702041450240noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post-87715952828679773862011-03-04T23:57:17.382-08:002011-03-04T23:57:17.382-08:00We have an alternative self whose potential was lo...We have an alternative self whose potential was lost at the time of our adoption. We are in the witness protection program without having done anything but be born. It sucks. Names *do* matter. Even though I never had a first name on my OBC, it's meant the world to me to know my original last name. And sometimes I wonder who Baby Girl Newman would have grown up to be if she'd been allowed to be a Newman. No wonder I feel like part of myself has been missing all my life.<br /><br />You articulate your feelings so wonderfully. Thank you for sharing them.ms. marginaliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03854609171313401651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post-8618341015984412502011-02-28T08:17:16.107-08:002011-02-28T08:17:16.107-08:00Thanks Linda.
Jeannette I think these women who r...Thanks Linda.<br /><br />Jeannette I think these women who recently placed their children might react because they are having their safety zones threatened. That of the belief that their children will grow up and be happy and connect with their adoptive families without question. That could happen but more than likely it won't. For these women it makes them question what the adoption industry and society brain washes them with that placing your child gives them a better life and you will be "ok" then too. It's hogwash. But, only we know that.Assembling Selfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00106371702041450240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post-35200940073287810352011-02-27T19:08:39.857-08:002011-02-27T19:08:39.857-08:00My daughter just had this issue. She changed her ...My daughter just had this issue. She changed her name on facebook from her adoptive name to her given name on her OBC. People freaked out at her because it was so disrespectful to her "real" parents. She literally had over 40 comments on her page for making an adult decision. I told her it is just facebook. It is not a big deal. If she later wants to change her name or keep her name as her adoptive name is fine. BTW I am the natural mom. The people that freaked out the most were women that recently placed their children for adoption.Jeannettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10031950274392571035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post-63855613561913499912011-02-27T16:41:36.931-08:002011-02-27T16:41:36.931-08:00"A name is only a name....until you lose it.&..."A name is only a name....until you lose it." <br /> <br />Absofreakinlutely.Real Daughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16361127479878590761noreply@blogger.com