tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post170472940338029080..comments2023-04-30T04:41:19.630-07:00Comments on Assembling Self: Why So Many Adoptees Don't Love Adoption!Assembling Selfhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00106371702041450240noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post-37138054628501723562014-05-24T21:49:26.625-07:002014-05-24T21:49:26.625-07:00Ha ha! I was adopted in 1967 and just came out of ...Ha ha! I was adopted in 1967 and just came out of the adoption fog you are creating. I was fine as a child but when the teenage years hit, oh boy! In retrospect, my shrink feels that my adoption could have something to do with it. Along with other abandonment issues, etc. These articles actually help me get in touch with the negative aspects of adoption & deal with them. When I was a teenager, there was no internet & I felt this way without anyone telling me to. You are a pompous a**!mich1967https://www.blogger.com/profile/01631592926435188587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post-30648282252932636472012-10-14T11:15:27.037-07:002012-10-14T11:15:27.037-07:00I must say that I'm shocked and saddened, Dani...I must say that I'm shocked and saddened, Daniel, that despite having completed adoption preparation classes, you still refer to some children as "natural". :( Also that, if I understand what you wrote correctly, you have expectations for your adoptive children to "lead by example" to your biological children? <br /><br />I sincerely hope you will continue to open your heart to learning how to be the best parent possible to your precious new children:<br /><br />http://sherrieeldridge.com/assets/PDF-20thingsstudyguide.pdf<br /><br />GentleOceanWindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14288329308455517001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post-1214710639024929922012-10-14T10:25:10.143-07:002012-10-14T10:25:10.143-07:00I stumbled across your blog while looking for imag...I stumbled across your blog while looking for images to congratulate a dear friend who just brought home her second HIV positive daughter from Ukraine. She worked for two long years to bring her girls home, to a new life with an authentic, gentle and loving family who adores them and community who loves and cherishes them, too. They are so loved, and will be surrounded by love through the healing process that will take place the rest of their lives, I would imagine. I know you know, but just wanted to share my story how I arrived at your blog, and that it is one that emerged through and despite the political and self-serving industry, to bring light and love to two precious seven year old girls who were best friends in the orphanage and now sisters forever. <br /><br />Obviously, there aren't always fairy tale endings, and my heart goes out to you and others who must face heartache and profound loss others could never possibly begin to understand. Your poetry is heartwrenchingly beautiful and as a mother and daughter, I send you healing light, love and peace on this journey. <3 GentleOceanWindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14288329308455517001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post-53931015052494011882012-05-29T11:06:57.258-07:002012-05-29T11:06:57.258-07:00To Daniel above me, you may want to consider using...To Daniel above me, you may want to consider using the word biological instead of "natural". The word natural when referring to your biological kids can make adoption sound unnatural to some ears.<br /><br />To the author of this piece, I am sorry to hear that anyone has not had a positive experience adoption. However, I question the appropriateness of the image you created. I am a mother, and my children are ridiculously loved. I fear, that as a teenager, or any other vulnerable time in their life, my kids could see the image you created and maybe question if they are loved or not.<br /><br />Actually, I don't fear that for my kids. They will be fine. However, there may very well be other adopted kids who could be quite negatively affected unnecessarily by that picture.<br /><br />I wish you all the best and thank you for bringing awareness to adoption. Keep up the good work and peace to you.Oz Tilsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05388826871082869032noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post-13109325192182402472012-05-15T08:36:45.078-07:002012-05-15T08:36:45.078-07:00My wife and I recently completed our "classes...My wife and I recently completed our "classes" on how to be adoptive parents, and I came across your blog today. We have four "natural" children and are looking to adopt two more from the foster system. Not from birth. I agree with you about the brokenness of the system and the money part. We don't need the money, but we get money from it anyways that we plan to save for the children. And yes, I have natural children with problems, mostly in regards to being social. I certainly don't expect that our adoptive children "take care" of the natural children, but it would be great if they could lead by example in their interactions with other children.<br />We were advised to take as many notes as possible at any termination hearings, as we too will not have any information about the child's biological family. Unlike your situation I presume, the adoptive child will know more about her natural family than we ever will.<br />We have seen that many families adopt out of a "calling from God". We're agnostically religious, but that whole thing is a a bunch of baloney and can't end well. In our classes, we've also met a lot of 'principled' parents and downright strange people. We simply like kids and want to share our exciting life. We also know adoptees that have had negative adoptive family experiences.<br />We've heard story after story of natural moms being made to choose between abusive boyfriend of the week and their natural children. And these moms choose the abusive boyfriend. Apparently, physical abuse accounts for 80+% of the children in foster or foster-adoption today.<br />Sure, the system tells its side of the story, but I have to believe that many - not all - adopted children, at least out of the foster system, are better off (maybe not best off) than before. Does it need to be fixed? Yes. Does it need even more second chances for biological parents? Probably not. Should adoptive parents get a psych eval? Oh yes!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post-45741164657118309382012-03-23T17:02:27.865-07:002012-03-23T17:02:27.865-07:00Preachin on! Thanks guys. :)Preachin on! Thanks guys. :)Assembling Selfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00106371702041450240noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post-19050784380979789962012-03-23T11:59:46.326-07:002012-03-23T11:59:46.326-07:00Ditto!
Love the illustration too.Ditto! <br /><br />Love the illustration too.Lorraine Duskyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18285341379272250245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1230536403092090594.post-68038411428177661062012-03-23T10:42:19.111-07:002012-03-23T10:42:19.111-07:00Preach it, sister!! xoxoxoPreach it, sister!! xoxoxoReal Daughterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16361127479878590761noreply@blogger.com